Self-Esteem

Definition

First we go through self-esteem definition..
The term self-esteem comes from a Greek word meaning "reverence for self." The "self" part of self-esteem pertains to the values, beliefs and attitudes that we hold about ourselves. The "esteem" part of self-esteem describes the value and worth that one gives oneself. Simplistically self-esteem is the acceptance of ourselves for who and what we are at any given time in our lives.



Types of Self-Esteem   

People can develop the following types of self-esteem.

~High self-esteem (Normal): The person loves themselves and accepts who they are.

~Low self-esteem: The person doesn’t love themselves, doesn’t accept who they are and doesn’t value their qualities.

~Inflated self-esteem: The person loves themselves more than others and they exaggerate their qualities.



Characteristics of people with high self-esteem

• They know what they can do well and they know how they can improve. 
• They feel happy with themselves.
• They express their opinion.
• They are not afraid to talk to other people.
• They know how to identify and express their emotions to other people.
• They participate in activities that are carried out at their school or work.
• They value themselves in everyday situations. They give and ask for support.
• They like tasks and don’t fear them.
• They consider others, they like to help and they are willing to collaborate with other people.
• They are creative and original. They invent things. They are interested in carrying out unknown tasks, and they learn new activities quickly.
• They fight to reach what they want.
• They enjoy the fun things in life, not only in their own lives but in others as well.
• They like to carry out new activities.
• They are organized in their activities.
• They ask when they don’t know something.
• They defend their position in front of others.
• They recognize when they make a mistake.
• They don’t get annoyed when people mention their qualities, but they don’t like to be insulted.
• They know their qualities and try to improve their defects.
• They are responsible for their actions.
• They are natural leaders.

Characteristics of people with low self-esteem

• They are indecisive, they find it difficult to make decisions, and they are scared of making a mistake. They only make decisions when they are 100% certain that they will achieve a good result.
• They think they can’t do new things, that they don’t know anything.
• They don’t value their talents. They look at their small talents and they see other people’s talents as being better.They are afraid of new things and they avoid taking risks.
• They are very anxious and nervous, which makes them avoid situations which produce anguish and fear.
• They are very passive, they avoid taking initiative.
• They are isolated and hardly have any friends.
• They don’t like to compete with others.
• They avoid participating in activities which take place at their school or work.
• They fear speaking to other people.
• They depend a lot on other people to carry out tasks or carry out any type of activity.
• They give up instead of trying.
• They are not satisfied with themselves, they think they don’t do anything well.
• They don’t know their emotions; therefore they can not express them.
• As they don’t value themselves, they find it hard to accept criticism.
• They find it difficult to recognize their mistakes.
• They retain feelings of guilt when something goes wrong.
• When there are negative results they look at others to blame.
• They believe they are the ugly ones.
• They think they are ignorant.
• They are pleased other people make mistakes.
• They don’t worry about their health.
• They are pessimistic; they believe everything is going to have a negative outcome.
• They look for leaders to do things.
• They think they are not very interesting.
• They believe they cause a bad impression.
• They find it difficult to reach their goals.
• They feel like they don’t control their lives. 

Characteristics of people with inflated self-esteem

• They believe they can do everything; there is nobody better than themselves.
• They believe they are always right and that they never make any mistakes.
• They are excessively confident of themselves; as a result they don’t see the risks of their actions.
• They believe everyone loves them.
• They speak out of turn and are scandalous.
• They don’t consider anyone when they carry out their tasks or carryout any type of activity.
• In general, people reject them for knowing everything.
• They love themselves.
• They feel attractive (not necessarily in a physical aspect).
• They believe they are the most interesting people in the world.
• They are very sure of themselves.
• They believe they are natural winners.
• They believe they have the best bodies.
• They believe they have an impact on everyone they meet.
• They like people to praise them.
• They believe everyone is obliged to love them.
• They believe they are their best friends.
• They think they never make mistakes, but they attack others when they make a mistake.
• They are usually always friendly to people: they accept people without judging them.
• They fell happy and completely happy on their own.
• They are constantly worrying about their health.
• They are extremely optimistic.
• They believe they deserve more than others.
• They want to have the best clothes, perfume and material objects.
• They are self-worshipping.

That is the characteristic of each types self-esteem..we can increase or decrease our self-esteem by control our behaviour.. =)